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ABCE: ANGER, BOUNDARIES, COMPASSION, ENABLING - YOUR CHOICE

No matter who we are or where we go in life, we encounter people who are struggling with personal issues and are not easy to engage with. They can prove challenging to deal for a variety of reasons. Often times, we feel ill-equipped to effectively deal with them. Some, feeling overwhelmed or unprepared, simply disengage and avoid any interaction at all. Others may become defensive or hostile toward…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on June 14, 2017 at 7:35am — No Comments

FORGIVENESS: HOW TO, Part 2

In last week's show, we spoke about why some people choose not to forgive and why it's essential to do so. There are many reasons and two of the biggest are: they feel the person is not deserving of being forgiven; 2. they feel that should they grant pardon, the other party will think the incident was not serious, will not have to be held accountable, or may very well repeat  the offense. Although none…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on June 7, 2017 at 7:38am — No Comments

FORGIVENESS: WHY WE DON'T, BUT NEED TO AND HOW Part 1

Is there someone in your life that you either refuse to forgive or are having a hard time with? I've often heard people make statements such as "I'll never forgive them for what they did!" Or, "Some things should never be forgiven." Still others feel that some people simple do not deserve exoneration. Why are some reluctant to do so when others believe it is absolutely necessary and must be offered to…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on May 31, 2017 at 7:58am — No Comments

ANGRY? GET OVER IT!

Today my husband and I had our fifth fight. Not bad for a twenty year marriage but regardless, for an anger management professional such as myself,  I didn't handle it very well. Actually, fight is not an accurate description as it was more like a huff, that is we got annoyed at each other.  Let me explain: I asked Mac to show me how to use the power washer so that I could prep the tool…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on May 24, 2017 at 7:43am — No Comments

TEN TIPS TO DIFFUSE A VOLATILE SITUATION

We are living in a very volatile and dangerous age. Not only have issues of domestic violence, child and animal abuse, anger in the workplace and so on been more apparent, but we are definitely witnessing a rise of violence within our communities. Gangs and individual assaults seem to be taking a back seat to protests by militant groups claiming to seek justice but who in actuality are promoting and…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on May 17, 2017 at 9:55am — No Comments

WHEN TO FIGHT AND WHEN TO NOT

I'm not much of a fighter. When I was a child, my dad taught me that if someone hits you, hit them back but never be the one to throw the first punch. In essence, only fight back when you have to defend yourself. My mom's message was taken from Luke 6:29 and contradicted Dad's: "If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on May 10, 2017 at 8:13am — No Comments

NEVER BE A VICTIM AGAIN!

At some time in life, most people feel as though they've been treated unfairly to the extent that they would consider themselves a victim. Certainly those who have been the target of a violent crime fall into that category according to society's standards. Even those of lesser offenses can view themselves as the target of injustice: a faithful spouse who's partner has an affair or files for divorce; a…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on May 3, 2017 at 7:39am — No Comments

I DARE YOU TO ASK THIS

Relationships are critically important in our lives. On a professional level, being a good team player and getting along well with others enables us to maintain our jobs and receive such perks as bonuses or promotions. Also, connecting with the right people can advance our careers providing we have good interpersonal skills. How people feel about us on the job plays an important role in how successful…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on April 26, 2017 at 8:22am — No Comments

EMOTIONAL /SPIRITUAL RECOVERY FROM TRAUMATIC EVENTS

Life can change in a heartbeat. A few weeks ago, a family was stopped at a red light and rear-ended by a drunk driver. Their 10-year old son, Matthew, suffered a severe head trauma and is in a medically induced coma. The prognosis is not good and the family struggles to make sense of what was an act of sheer reckless endangerment. While hopefully many of us will never experience a trauma of this…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on April 19, 2017 at 8:00am — No Comments

RIGHTEOUS ANGER

In regards to anger, I have good news and some bad news. First the good news: there is nothing wrong with being angry. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. It is even necessary for justice to preside as well as for our very survival. The bad news is that it is not ok to express it whenever and however we want. Letting it out can prove to be detrimental to our health, well-being, safety,…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on April 12, 2017 at 7:47am — No Comments

THE T-I-B-Bs AFFECT ON ANGER

Although we often classify a person's actions as problematic, in truth a person's conduct is never the real problem. Behavior is nothing more than an outward expression of an internal issue. For example, if an individual is in a bad mood and arguing with those around them, the fighting simply indicates a possible insecurity or fear. Perhaps the person is worried about their health and others are…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on April 5, 2017 at 7:36am — No Comments

LAUGH AWAY ANGER

People take life far too seriously. There are important issues in our world such as child abuse, war, poverty, starvation, disease, etc.  These are all matters critical for the well-being of humanity. Each one needs to be addressed and resolved quickly in order to protect mankind and eliminate unnecessary suffering. But we give too much credence to incidences of little value and in turn cause ourselves…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on March 29, 2017 at 7:21am — No Comments

"GO AHEAD - GET GOOD AND ANGRY!"

 It's hard to avoid getting angry. Even those who are relatively easy going find themselves irate from time to time. At the most inopportune moments, anger can rear its ugly head and create all sorts of havoc in our lives. Consider these examples:

You've been under extraordinary amounts of stress…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on March 22, 2017 at 7:56am — No Comments

70 Is Not Always The New 50 or How Can I Find God if I Can't Find My Keys

70 is not always the new 50



"How can I find God if I can't find my keys?"



The above subtitle was a workshop I attended in the 90s that dealt with organization while on a spiritual journey. Nothing substantial took place in my life but the title seriously affected my need to get organized. 20 years later I find myself ready to organize my stuff.



At 50, I was at the height of my career and doing well professionally and earning money that allowed me to obtain many… Continue

Added by Waukena Cuyjet on March 16, 2017 at 11:25am — No Comments

THE F~B~I WAY TO WARD OFF ANGER

I've been teaching people about anger for nearly twenty five years. What I do is commonly referred to as anger management training. However, this implies that people must first become irate and then seek methods of how to manage it effectively, express it appropriately, and ultimately put it to rest so it does not cause further distress or damage. This makes about as much sense as allowing your house…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on March 15, 2017 at 7:37am — No Comments

A W-I-S-E APPROACH TO RESOLVING CONFLICTS

In college, one of my philosophy professors would frequently have the class debate a hot topic. He'd randomly divide the class in half and have each side present their best argument in support of their assigned position. Regardless of how you felt personally, you were expected to gather as many facts as possible to present the strongest argument. It was actually quite stimulating as it challenged us to…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on March 8, 2017 at 7:41am — No Comments

Part 2: "20+ TIMES TO NOT SAY ANYTHING"

 Part 2

Continuing from where we left off last week, remember that there is a time to speak and a time to keep our mouths shut. Here are more examples of when it's best to remain silent:…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on March 1, 2017 at 7:30am — No Comments

20+ TIMES TO NOT SAY ANYTHING

There are so many times in our lives when we realize after the fact that it would have been in our best interest to have kept our thoughts to ourselves. Words are powerful and can make matters better or cause damage to others or get us into a whole lot of trouble. There is much wisdom in the old adage to "think before  you speak", sage advice for us to follow throughout our entire lives. The Bible…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on February 22, 2017 at 8:01am — No Comments

ANGER: FIRE OR ICE?

It doesn't take much to anger some people. Even the most innocent comments can cause some tempers to flare. Innocuous situations can be misinterpreted leading to screaming matches, cursing, or physical altercations. In an instant, violence can erupt where calm once existed and destruction of property, injury to one's person, or psychological damage can occur.  Patience, understanding, forgiveness, and…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on February 15, 2017 at 8:30am — No Comments

ALTERNATIVES RESPONSES TO ANGER

Life doesn't always turn out the way we'd like. When situations take an unfavorable turn, we become upset, frustrated, or angry. When others don't agree with us, live their life the way we think they should, or act in a manner we find disturbing, anger is a typical response. With the exception a few extreme circumstance, an angry reaction rarely improves the situation or endears us to the other…

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Added by Janet Pfeiffer on February 8, 2017 at 7:41am — No Comments

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