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Preventing Another Orlando Massacre

Last week our country was shattered by yet another senseless massacre of innocent people. A gunman opened fire inside Pulse, a crowded gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida, early Sunday morning, leaving at least 49 people dead in the worst mass shooting in modern U.S. history. Gays have long been targets of hate crimes throughout the world as have others as well. Heated debates in Congress and among US…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on June 22, 2016 at 8:42am — No Comments

"AR You Ready to Reduce Anger in Your Relationships?"

Relationships are the most challenging aspect of life whether personal, professional, casual or intimate. Even with those we love deeply, such as family members, getting along can prove challenging. Consider this: more than half of all American families are estranged from one another due in part to unresolved differences.  Yet it is not imperative that our differences be resolved, for if they were then…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on June 15, 2016 at 10:31am — No Comments

An In-Depth Look at Anger

According to psychologist Charles Speilberger, Ph.D who specializes in the study of anger, “Anger is an emotional state that varies from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. It's accompanied by physiological, psychological and biological changes. When you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure elevate, as does the level of energy hormones adrenalin and noradrenalin."  Anger can be triggered…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on June 8, 2016 at 8:14am — No Comments

Emotional Intellegence and Anger

In 1995, author, psychologist, and science journalist, Daniel Goleman, wrote a book entitled, Emotional Intelligence which made its way to The New York Times bestseller list for a year-and-a-half. It was a relatively new concept designed to assist companies in determining which characteristics defined leadership qualities in their employees. Certainly one's level of intelligence, (IQ), was critical.…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on May 25, 2016 at 8:21am — No Comments

Anger: Incident or Issue?

In the years that I facilitated my support group for estranged families,  I primarily worked with older parents whose adult children had severed their relationship with them. The parents were perplexed: "I was a good parent", they declared. "I gave my children the best of everything. There is no reason why they should be punishing me like this!"  …


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on May 18, 2016 at 8:04am — No Comments

Lose Your Temper For Good!

I've had many clients over the years request my help in teaching them how to control their tempers. "I lose my temper and afterwards feel terrible. I don't want to do this anymore. I need to learn how to control my temper." My response to them is this, "If you lose your keys you seek to find them. If you lose your job you hope to be rehired or to acquire a new job. However, not everything that you lose…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on May 11, 2016 at 8:42am — No Comments

Anger and Disease: the Connection and Remedies

There is no denying that the mind, body, and spirit are all interconnected. What impacts one affects all others. While the general public has become more health conscious in terms of eating healthier, dropping those unnecessary pounds, and exercising more, what often gets overlooked - that continues to impact our health - are our emotional issues and beliefs.…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on May 4, 2016 at 8:03am — No Comments

14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions

While conducting research for today's show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes - hurt, fear, and frustration - that prompt anger in us. Let's examine some of the most frequent experiences that elicit  an angry response and what steps we need…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on April 27, 2016 at 7:37am — No Comments

When disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most o…

When disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity.  Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing things, or opinions challenge us and may threaten our sense of safety or question our level of intelligence.…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on April 20, 2016 at 8:23am — No Comments

3 R's That Mend Broken Relationships

Relationships can be challenging, each with its own unique set of issues. Whether on the job with co workers who can at times be condescending, to social encounters with individuals who are overly critical, to our most personal relationships with family members who deeply offend us with hurtful words - on every level our relationships can be seriously impaired and suffer deep wounds. However, even in…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on April 13, 2016 at 7:59am — No Comments

D~U~C~A~P Method of Dealing With a Difficult Person

We could all use a few suggestions for dealing with those difficult coworkers, obnoxious family members, or challenging neighbors that find their way into our lives. Some really know how to push our buttons and bring out the worst in us; others are stubborn or opinionated; still others can be rude, disrespectful, or argumentative. Whatever their unique behaviors are, they pose a challenge to everyone…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on April 6, 2016 at 8:35am — No Comments

More Advantageous Than Anger

Anger is a very powerful emotion which many conclude is a bad feeling. Whether one chooses to use it in a constructive manner or in a hostile way, it carries a lot of punch (figuratively speaking, of course). As you become angry your body's muscles tense up. Inside your brain, neurotransmitter chemicals are released, your heart rate accelerates, blood pressure rises, and your rate of breathing…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on March 30, 2016 at 7:56am — No Comments

Addressing the Primary Sources of Conflict

Conflict is a normal, healthy, and useful part of life. At its simplest, it means there is a disagreement or difference of opinion between two or more individuals. In life we can identify two types of conflict: internal and external. Internal conflict, the root issue causing discomfort and the basis which leads to one outwardly expression of it, manifests for several reasons: …


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on March 23, 2016 at 7:33am — No Comments

What the Bible Says About Anger

Dating back over 3500 years, the Bible began as a collection of oral stories handed down from generation to generation in the form of songs, narratives, and poetry. Eventually signs and symbols were utilized in a more permanent means of recording these stories until the written word became the primary method . It wasn't until many years after the death of Christ that the New Testament was added to the…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on March 16, 2016 at 8:06am — No Comments

Bullying Politicians and What We Must Learn From Them

If you've been following the presidential debates, you are well aware of the bullying behaviors of some of our candidates. Gone are the days when politicians debated national and global issues. Shockingly, but not surprisingly, the debates have mutated  into verbal warfare against each opponent. So who is to blame for this vile behavior? Many would point a finger at one candidate in particular who,…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on March 9, 2016 at 8:09am — No Comments

Achieving Self-Compassion

At times, human beings can be incredibly compassionate towards one another. A family member going through a difficult time is encouraged to take extra care of themselves. A teen struggling with adolescent challenges is given support and encouragement. We offer our assistance to a neighbor who's spouse is seriously ill. When others are at their worst, humanity is at its best. And yet, we are sometimes…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on March 2, 2016 at 7:00am — No Comments

How to Change Without Changing (And Why It's Important)

Not everyone likes change. Some are comfortable precisely where they are and prefer to stay within their comfort zone.  Others are more adventurous and enjoy a good challenge. They are more open to trying new things in order to experience something new or perhaps to learn something that will positively impact their life. There is one change, however, that everyone resists: that is when others tell us…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on February 24, 2016 at 8:29am — No Comments

Your Best Defense Against Anger

Check out Webster's dictionary. Anger is defined as "a feeling of discomfort or displeasure brought about by feelings of helplessness and powerlessness." My personal definition of a victim is one who views themselves as having no power or authority. Many times, a victim will claim that in a certain situation where they made a less than ideal decision, they did so because they had no choice. "I had to…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on February 17, 2016 at 1:02pm — No Comments

The Truth About Love, Hurt, and Anger

We're all familiar with the phrase, "love hurts". Too often, we take a witty cliché and assign truth to it. We then refer to it in times when it brings comfort, helps us to make a decision, or emphasizes a point. In reference to "love hurts", those who have been betrayed by someone they  loved and trusted may be deeply wounded by their actions and vow never to love again. One who has buried a loved…


Added by Janet Pfeiffer on February 10, 2016 at 7:38am — No Comments

The Universe in Which We Live

First, a bit of heresy:  When physicists talk about "the universe", they are talking about one kind of universe, namely the universe of physical space. And they have developed extraordinarily successful science about what goes on in physical space.  And with it, they have shown that basic physical science can eventually pay off in very practical ways.

Yet some seventy years ago, when Watson and Crick clarified the structure of DNA, they opened up an entirely different "universe",…


Added by Fred Emil Katz on February 8, 2016 at 11:08am — No Comments

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