I broke up from an amazing relationship last July. In this relationship, I got to experience a partnership of deep admiration and support. He helped me see beauty inside of myself that I didn't always see or acknowledge as gifts! He loved my children as if they were his own and I could go on and on with all the amazing gifts that came from our time together.

So why did you break- up then? Well there is a time and a season for everything and I was certain that time had come.

After this break-up I looked at what the amazing gifts I recieved from this experience and what would I like to create more of or differently next time! This time, with the inspiration of http://www.KandeeG.com and her love story she shared, it motived me to create an "Ideal Partner List"!

Have you ever created an ideal partner list? The first time I did this process was about 9 years ago and I said I would NEVER do that again because I got everything I asked for, but forgot to look at a few key areas. LOL However....now I know that to create what I want, I want to have clarity! Clarity leads to power.


When I first started this process I was careful to put the language in the form of what I want to create, instead of what I don't want. Sometime I had to start with what I didn't want to turn it around to what I did want.

Then when I looked at the list, I started to feel very depressed and lonely. Thinking how can I attract this amazing person into my life? Am I being shallow? Is it truely possible to have everything I want in a partner?

After a short time I started dating and adding more items to my list. It was getting longer and longer and longer (still is today)! Wow!!! Wondering is this partner really possible...and yet I have faith they are. I am still holding the vision.....and certain this process is bringing him to me now.

I will share a portion of my list below....Would love to hear if you think, share insights and comments

My PR advisor is saying I am NUTS for posting this....it will push buttons and not a good idea! What do you think?

My ideal partner is coming to me NOW!! or when I am ready! LOL

I am to "BE" the person I would love to love
As we grow together, sees us as a team
Comfortable and willing to wear a business suit
Great mindset
Enjoys Learning
Enlightened Warrior
Living Consciously
Loves holding me
Love my children
Loves kissing me
Loves what I share
Great listener
Wants to be involved and hear about my day and life
Willing to feel and express all feelings
natural health advocate
Loves kids
Loves animals
Willing to be intimate
Understand and utilize their power in visioning
Open minded
physically fit
GREAT looking
spiritual and open to other beliefs
great driver (I have been in a few accidents)
Enjoys taking my phone calls and/or connections - even if just a quick "hi, I am busy"
Ok with me being on the phone for work (many hours)
Love community and comfortable being with others.
Strong enough to be gentle
Tells me I am beautiful
Tells me I am special
Tell me he loves me!!!
Shares challenges openly
Focuses on the good in me and helps me see it, when I don't
Full of surprises
Great sense of humor
Supports my choice of priorities even if he disagrees
Lovingly agrees to disagree when needed
Willing to take risks
Will act in spite of fear or unknown
Hold me in the light
Pray with me and family
Will say "sorry" if needed
Hold me when I am crying, even if it is uncomfortable
Willing to stay in our relationship, even through the most challenging times
Beautiful eyes!
Great zest for life
Money is not an issue, plenty of it!
Loves music
Loves dancing
Has a passport
Plays well with others
Enjoys shopping with me
Straight male
Street smart
Entrepreneur mindset
Living in the NOW
Loves rubbing my feet and body
Love to be of service for others
Will love and adore me when I am old
Wants to grow old but not look old, with me
Balance in all areas of his life!
Considerate of others
Great Father
Great cook
Wants to show up and support events
Available emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually
See us (everyone) as ONE
similar political views - not allowing politics to create separation
Respects the body as a temple and sex as a sacred act of Godliness
Social Drinking or not a drinker at all
Risk taker!
Will continue to be commited to play together, even when they want to quit
Will avoid excuses
Shows up for himself
Reaction...can move through it quickly without much damage.
Will "get over it"...and tell me to "get over it", when I need it
Understand that pain is okay, just love and allow during that process
Work through resistance, do what is uncomfortable
Wants homes in other areas/countries
Pushes me with love to grow into the spiritual and business leader I am!
Values the support I bring to their life and I do the same for them. Honor each others gifts
Will challenge my belief's and their own
Cool with Jari being an active father and friend.
Wants to be married...if not have a sacred ceremony like marriage
We experience giving and recieving love unconditionally
Allows me to show up and serve, without fears or judgements. Just let's me give!
Enjoys hiking, camping and the outdoors
When I see him, I want to kiss and hug...my hearts beats fast even after many years!


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Comment by Shannon Burnett-Gronich on January 2, 2013 at 7:56pm

If your single...NOW is a great time to create and/or update your Ideal Partner List! Powerful when we have our deepest desires written down on paper :) Happy New Years!!! May 2013 be your best year yet!!!

Comment by Shannon Burnett-Gronich on October 19, 2011 at 9:41am
Yes Ari dreams do come true and our prayers do get answered :) Thank you for all your love, wisdom, compassion, support, fun and EVERYTHING else you share in my world!!! I love you
Comment by Ari Gronich on October 19, 2011 at 2:17am
I just decided to read your list again since we are getting married in under a month.  I wanted to make sure I had it down.  I think I will read this list many times in our relationship.  Good thing that I AM everything on your list and more.  Just as you are mine.  I love you from the core to the stars.  You are my most precious gift, my best friend in the world and my absolute DREAM GIRL.  You will be cherished for the rest of our lives together.
Thank you for putting out this ORDER to the Heavens and recognizing ME when your Order was Fulfilled.
I love you baby...
Comment by Jose Lopez on July 2, 2011 at 12:49pm
This Is Great Shannon...Thanks for sharing! I'm excited to implement.... I never thought of this before!
Comment by Ari Gronich on June 29, 2011 at 4:07am

Dream Wife Features

v Intelligent, Powerful, Beautiful, Soulful, Feminine, Spiritual

v Kind, Unconditionally loving, Self Confident, Open, Honest

v Eclectic, Fun, Theatrical, Adventurous,

v Natural and Easy to be around

v Love to Cuddle and be close

v Good, Thoughtful, Caring, Deliberate

v Can handle growth / growing together Self Improvement Junkie

v Free Liberal Minded w ability to be comfortable in ANY surrounding

v Passionate, Authentic, Romantic, Raw, Positive, Uplifting

v Organized, Good Manager, Laid Back Attitude with High Energy,

v Loves entertaining and can make everyone feel comfortable and welcome

v  Community Oriented, Masterful Communicator,

v Has a good relationship with Family and Friends

v Healthy Body Healthy Mind Healthy Spirit

v A searcher, discoverer, teacher, student, appreciator and lover of life

v Complete on her own, Complete with me…

Comment by Shannon Burnett-Gronich on June 24, 2009 at 7:24pm
I am truly grateful for all the comments and feedback on this blog. My next step to writing what it would feel like to be in the arms of my lover.....thought that was a cool suggestion. Next Blog coming soon!
Comment by Sheila Murrey on June 6, 2009 at 5:06pm
Several thoughts:

I'm wondering about your PR advice because Bunny Berry, just one example I can think of off the top of my head, is sooo candid and honest in her VIDEO blogs (on RawFu). I think it's AWESOME you posted this blog!!! As for Bunny, her blogs and vlogs attract many to her website - everyone can see her, experience her struggles, even in the morning without make-up!

As a leader of an online experience, it's not only OK but a necessity to provide a window to your soul. I am so inspired and happy that you are sharing openly, honestly, and without ego. This IS exactly what this business is about. Finding your soulmate will be one of the many blessings that will come to you from your list.

I had a list too, I made the list and didn't look at it until after my soulmate found me (online) and after we had lived together for a year I found that list. He met every "qualification" except one, which, because I knew him so well, and my kids were not only grown but out of the house, had become a non issue. That one thing? I had wanted my "man" to have had children so he could relate what I had gone through as a single parent. Now I am so thankful he had not had children as I have to ex to deal with! ha!

Lastly, I love the online experience. If you do join an online friend finder type of community, be as honest as possible. Be safe, meet in a public place many times, maybe even for months! Talk on the phone, write letters, send cards, care packages, whatever. Continue to write online. There's no finish line and nothing says you have to rush into any kind of dating committment or otherwise. Really get to know the person on the inside before anything else. The person on the inside is what counts when the chips are down, health / prosperity fades, old age comes, etc.

That's my two cents (or more) to pass along! :)
I love and wish you all the happiness in the world!

GREAT looking? Really? And how do you define it? This one can be tricky - think ego.
Comment by Carla on June 6, 2009 at 12:23pm
I sent you a message!
Comment by Gayla Gabriel on June 5, 2009 at 9:53pm
.Dear Shannon,
That is an amazing list! One can tell you have taken time and thoughtfulness in creating your list of ideals.
May I make a suggestion. Perhaps you might break your list into three categories. the first list being all the things you must have in an ideal partner, and a second list would be the things you want and desire, but are negotiable and the third list the characteristics and things you could not live with or accept in a partner. If a person has any of the unacceptable things you have listed on this third list you must not proceed with that person, it's a red flag! I wish you all the best in your search and may they be what you want or more!
Gayla Gabriel
Comment by Melinda Bernstein on June 5, 2009 at 2:25pm
I created a "love list" last year and found myself wrapped in the arms of a man in pursuit of the divinity within me. This man was missing 2 key ingredients on the list and I knew it, but he brought me clarity of my own needs and I am grateful the gift.

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