I broke up from an amazing relationship last July. In this relationship, I got to experience a partnership of deep admiration and support. He helped me see beauty inside of myself that I didn't always see or acknowledge as gifts! He loved my children as if they were his own and I could go on and on with all the amazing gifts that came from our time together.
So why did you break- up then? Well there is a time and a season for everything and I was certain that time had come.
After this break-up I looked at what the amazing gifts I recieved from this experience and what would I like to create more of or differently next time! This time, with the inspiration of http://www.KandeeG.com
and her love story she shared, it motived me to create an "Ideal Partner List"!
Have you ever created an ideal partner list? The first time I did this process was about 9 years ago and I said I would NEVER do that again because I got everything I asked for, but forgot to look at a few key areas. LOL However....now I know that to create what I want, I want to have clarity!
Clarity leads to power.
Then ask for THIS OR SOMETHING BETTER!
When I first started this process I was careful to put the language in the form of what I want to create,
instead of what I don't want. Sometime I had to start with what I didn't want to turn it around to what I did want.
Then when I looked at the list, I started to feel very depressed and lonely. Thinking how can I attract this amazing person into my life? Am I being shallow? Is it truely possible to have everything I want in a partner?
After a short time I started dating and adding more items to my list. It was getting longer and longer and longer (still is today)! Wow!!! Wondering is this partner really possible...and yet I have faith they are. I am still holding the vision.....and certain this process is bringing him to me now.
I will share a portion of my list below....Would love to hear if you think, share insights and comments
My PR advisor is saying I am NUTS for posting this....it will push buttons and not a good idea! What do you think?
My ideal partner is coming to me NOW!! or when I am ready! LOL
I am to "BE" the person I would love to love
As we grow together, sees us as a team
Comfortable and willing to wear a business suit
Loves holding me
Love my children
Loves kissing me
Loves what I share
Wants to be involved and hear about my day and life
Willing to feel and express all feelings
natural health advocate
Willing to be intimate
Understand and utilize their power in visioning
spiritual and open to other beliefs
great driver (I have been in a few accidents)
Enjoys taking my phone calls and/or connections - even if just a quick "hi, I am busy"
Ok with me being on the phone for work (many hours)
Love community and comfortable being with others.
Strong enough to be gentle
Tells me I am beautiful
Tells me I am special
Tell me he loves me!!!
Shares challenges openly
Focuses on the good in me and helps me see it, when I don't
Full of surprises
Great sense of humor
Supports my choice of priorities even if he disagrees
Lovingly agrees to disagree when needed
Willing to take risks
Will act in spite of fear or unknown
Hold me in the light
Pray with me and family
Will say "sorry" if needed
Hold me when I am crying, even if it is uncomfortable
Willing to stay in our relationship, even through the most challenging times
Great zest for life
Money is not an issue, plenty of it!
Has a passport
Plays well with others
Enjoys shopping with me
Living in the NOW
Loves rubbing my feet and body
Love to be of service for others
Will love and adore me when I am old
Wants to grow old but not look old, with me
Balance in all areas of his life!
Considerate of others
Wants to show up and support events
Available emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually
See us (everyone) as ONE
similar political views - not allowing politics to create separation
Respects the body as a temple and sex as a sacred act of Godliness
Social Drinking or not a drinker at all
Will continue to be commited to play together, even when they want to quit
Will avoid excuses
Shows up for himself
Reaction...can move through it quickly without much damage.
Will "get over it"...and tell me to "get over it", when I need it
Understand that pain is okay, just love and allow during that process
Work through resistance, do what is uncomfortable
Wants homes in other areas/countries
Pushes me with love to grow into the spiritual and business leader I am!
Values the support I bring to their life and I do the same for them. Honor each others gifts
Will challenge my belief's and their own
Cool with Jari being an active father and friend.
Wants to be married...if not have a sacred ceremony like marriage
We experience giving and recieving love unconditionally
Allows me to show up and serve, without fears or judgements. Just let's me give!
Enjoys hiking, camping and the outdoors
When I see him, I want to kiss and hug...my hearts beats fast even after many years!
PS>>>>THIS IS NOT THE ENTIRE LIST. SOMETHINGS STAY PRIVATE (-: